Guys, My GF wants to get plastic surgery…IT’S DRIVING ME INSANE!!?
I don’t understand wһу tһе **** ѕһе′d wanna ԁο such a thing, ѕһе’s actually considering getting plastic surgery…IN BRAZIL…ѕһе wаחtѕ tο ɡеt һеr lips injected аחԁ ѕһе keeps complaining аbουt һοw fаt ѕһе іѕ!! ѕһе lost ѕο much weight once I nearly puked аt tһе sight οf һеr stuck out collarbones….ѕһе ԁіԁ regain һеr womanly figure back bυt now ѕһе wаחtѕ tο ɡеt һеr face done?? Wһаt’s wrοחɡ wіtһ һеr???? I tһіחk һеr lips аrе fine tһе way іt іѕ? іt’s חοt Ɩіkе ѕһе’s υɡƖу οr anything…here, look аt һеr pic:
http://geocities.com/tickledgreen/14092006.jpg
аחԁ tеƖƖ mе іf u tһіחk ѕһе needs tο ɡеt anything done bесаυѕе I’m confused аѕ ****…іѕ іt coz I don’t compliment һеr enough οr something? bесаυѕе i really don’t want tο, ѕһе’s used tο getting compliments anyways аחԁ i don’t want tο mаkе һеr feel Ɩіkе һеr looks аrе аƖƖ i care аbουt аחԁ turn һеr іחtο a vain b*****!! i’m getting paranoid now, wһу brazil, wһу аƖƖ tһе self-criticism
сουƖԁ ѕһе bе having аח affair??
actually ѕһе’s 22…іtѕ tһе mаkе up ѕһе puts οח…
skyblue:…חο, іt һаѕ nothing tο ԁο wіtһ rасе, ѕһе’s latina аחԁ proud οf іt.
omg she is so pretty she doesn’t surgery at all. She might be better off seeing a shrink. She sounds like she has low self esteem.
Yes, she is good looking but maybe someone else gave her the idea as women are tend to experiment on various things including themselves.
dang that’s one beautiful girl friend you have there. hard to say why she’s thinking these things.
she’s probably afraid of losing her beauty, she’s probably 25-30 and she’s afraid of losing it.
people probably feel best if they do something against their problems… keeps them busy and keeps them away from akward ideas. reccomend her exercise such as jogging, pilates
hey she looks great!
if compliments all she wants why dont give it!
its a lot much easier to do than complaining about what shes planning to do maybe thats what she wants to gain ur praise to her on how beautiful she is!
u know a girl really loves to hear compliments especially on how she looks like maybe that’l saves her from having a plastic surgery, and also tell her that those attriobutes or details in her face u turned on so why change it?if she does that means she no longer loves you thats ur parting words in case she still insist of doing it!
first of all, you just have to tell her that you dont want her to do things with her body. but i think you should compliment her – i dont know why this is so hard on your part. i believe your gf would take whatever you say as a good thing. turning into a vain b***** would be really weird just because you said something umm.. good to her. you see, it doesnt matter if everybody compliments her good looks. i think she very well wants to make you happy and do whatever it takes to get your approval. if you dont say what you feel, i think she’ll see it as your silent approval. remember: she might be doing this for you.
She is a very attractive girl and doesn’t need a thing done. You don’t need to constantly give her compliments but you should sit down and tell her how you feel in a very calm way. Tell her you think she is beautiful just the way she is and maybe even think she would be less attractive if she changed herself. Tell her you are worried about why she wants to do this and really worried about the safety of going to Brazil. If that doesn’t help at all, call a local plastic surgeon that has free consultations. Tell the doctor before she even knows about it that you have these concerns and would like her to hear from a doctor that she doesn’t need this and shouldn’t do anything until it has been thought thru for a long time and is not a reaction to low self-esteem.
looks r probably 1 of d most imp factor of 1s personality. of crse, they should b well maintained n cared for… but d whole idea of surgeries just makes me crazy. should v not accept wat nature has bestowed us with? does soul n character stand no where? friend, your gf like many others is stil intellectually shallow n trapped in materialism… u need 2 get hr out of it…make hr understand tht until n unless she accepts n loves herself.. no 1 will do it.. no surgeries would help hr if she wants 2 seek 4 perfection.. tel hr, u r in love with hr… TRUE HER… “beauty lies in the eyes of beholder”… n in ur eyes she is as perfect as nature is… a beauty may win hearts 4 fw moments or perhaps dayz bt d real heart winner is ur soul n ur character… their imp’ance is beyond limit n if evr she cn get a surgery of tht done.. its worth any cost!!!!!!
I firmly believe she is either, as you have mentioned, not getting complement from those persons, like you perhaps, who influences her the most. Or, she used to get excessive and perhaps, exxagerated complements, and she’s losing them now. Best way to deal is to work on making her understand that what she is doing does not change the way, you and as i have said people around her, people looks at her.
While it is true that physical attractiveness is a major factor to likeability, being liked by everyone is a very expensive and arduous goal. Being liked by people you love, is a more realistic and important one.
I think she wants to have plastic surgery because she wants to please you. The first sight we like to see is a beautiful woman, but what you need to do is make her understand that to YOU she is the most beautiful angel in the whole world, right now and always will be.
If she thinks she’s a bit fat then make her understand that weight can come off whenever she feels like taking it off, you both can do an enjoyable (and perhaps highly pleasurable) exercise together that would reduce both of your weight.
I would just try to concentrate on making her happy, forget all the other crap.
God blessed everyone with looks, why would you want to change what He specifically created for you.
Kregs,
Your gfriend has low self-esteem, but you need to know why (environment with different looking ppl, caucasian vs asians).
I think that having plastic surgery is fine, as long as it is the “one time” operation kind, meaning nose job, ear job, eye lid…once the operation is done…no need to do anything about it ever again. with opposition to: breast implants, which WILL need to be changed 5-8 years later! meaning…another operation.
As for lips…it is injection of some foreign material in your body and you can never be sure about the “safety” of the material.
As for your gfriend, you can only give her your opinion but in the end, if you truly love her, then if she does go forward with it, I hope she still has you to count on for support.
If she has the money for it, and if she feels unhappy with her looks, and she cannot “snap” out of it, then maybe it is the answer for her. She should look for a reputable doctor and spend THE money on something excellent, and not some bush doc…!!
She is narcissistic. That is why. It is defined in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of the American Psychiatric Association, DSM-IV 301.81: http://behavenet.com/capsules/disorders/narcissisticpd.htm
There is nothing wrong with how she is or should I say as she originally was, it is just that she wants to be better. Call it a lack of good self-esteem.
Why surgery in Brazil? Because it is cheaper there, most likely. I had a friend whose mother had several plastic surgeries done in Acapulco, Mexico, just because it was cheaper there.
WHAT CONCERNS ME is that she may be receiving the services of an unqualified doctor. I would rather have a medical procedure done in the United States where I could successfully sue somebody for a botched procedure than have it done in a foreign country where I would possibly nave no ability to be compensated for a botched procedure.
well give her the ultimatitum which is that youll leave her if she does so with her. she needs a therapist.
As pretty as your gf is believe she may be even vainer. Am getting a bit tire myself of those over-puffed lips myself. She needs to be happy with what she was given instead of trying to look like someone else. This could be the start of a lifetime obsession.